Choices Bring Blessings & Curses
God created Adam in his image. He gave Adam the power of creation of life through his seed. When you look at seeds, plant them, they grow. How they grow is determined by the care given to the seed as it grows.
Man can create life with his seed but woman incubates the seed. The woman nurtures and cares for the seed but the man protects, provides for and directs the seed. When a man decides to marry a woman, in the eyes of God, that man has chosen to take the responsibility of caring for and providing for, protecting that woman. That woman, his bride, becomes his responsibility, by choice.
Your bride is not created to provide for you and your children. Your bride is not created to guide and direct the house, the man is created for this and made a decision, a choice, to take on that responsibility. When a woman chooses to accept a man’s wedding proposal, she is expecting her husband to provide, protect, lead, guide and have a strong relationship with God.
Scripture calls the church the bride of Christ. As the bride of Christ, we also expect God to take responsibility for us. We look to the Lord to provide for us, care for us, protect us, lead and guide us, to love us. Jesus willingly made that decision when he came to this world, died for us, rose from the dead and stated anyone who comes to him he will in no wise cast them out.
But what about the fatherless? Those who grew up without a father? Those children do not have a father to protect them, provide for them, care for them. Often they grow up not knowing how to make good decisions because their father left and never taught them. Their mother often has to work outside the home and the children, today, are educated by government not the family.
When you think about it, mothers and fathers teach their children how to walk, talk, read, write, do math, feed themselves, and dad teaches how to reason and make good decisions. Mothers nuture and are emotion based where fathers are thinkers. They reason things. If dad walks out, his children learn emotions and lack reasoning. So children, if not taught how to make good decisions, make emotional based decisions. Emotional decisions are based on feelings not reason. So children say, I don’t feel like doing that. Where dad would teach, you want to do this because first, God commands this or that and second, if you choose to do it this will happen and if you choose not to do it, that will happen. The child then learns to reason.
No matter how hard a mother tries to teach her children the things God designed the man to teach, she can not succeed because God did not create her that way. Often, women turn to God then, and ask God for help. How does God respond? God has a lot to say about the fatherless. Just a few things God has to say are –
Psalm 68:4-6 KJV “Sing unto God, sing praises to his name: extol him that rideth upon the heavens by his name Jah , and rejoice before him.
 A father of the fatherless, and a judge of the widows, is God in his holy habitation.
 God setteth the solitary in families: he bringeth out those which are bound with chains: but the rebellious dwell in a dry land .”
Psalm 10:14 KJV “Thou hast seen it ; for thou beholdest mischief and spite, to requite it with thy hand: the poor committeth himself unto thee; thou art the helper of the fatherless.”
Your choices, are yours to make. God has given each of us a free will. God told Israel they needed to make a choice in Deuteronomy 30:19,20 and God told them to choose life.
Just as Jesus said, when two or more agree – God called on two – heaven and earth – in Deuteronomy
Deuteronomy 30:19-20 KJV “I call heaven and earth to record this day against you, that I have set before you life and death, blessing and cursing: therefore choose life, that both thou and thy seed may live:
 That thou mayest love the Lord thy God, and that thou mayest obey his voice, and that thou mayest cleave unto him: for he is thy life, and the length of thy days: that thou mayest dwell in the land which the Lord sware unto thy fathers, to Abraham, to Isaac, and to Jacob, to give them.”
And for those who say yeah but that is for Israel, look at verse 20, your fathers Abraham, to Isaac and to Jacob – all who lived before the law.
Galatians 3:29 KJV “And if ye be Christ’s, then are ye Abraham’s seed, and heirs according to the promise.”
Notice how your decision will impact your seed? Your decisions impact your family. Your decisions will bring life and blessings to your family or your decisions can bring death and cursing to your family. When a man chooses money over his family, work over file time, he teaches his children money is more important than God or family.
Women fail to see if a man never had a father, he will not know how to be a father or husband. And men fail to see it is not up to the woman to support and guide the house, it us up to the man. So ladies, choose your man wisely and yes, look at his family’s success or failures. And men, before you decide who to marry and how to guide your family be sure God is your Shepherd and understand God is going to hold you accountable for your bride and your children. Choose life and blessings.
Until next time.